God I hate that terms Weekend Parent, Weekend Dad, and Weekend Mom. I’m not just a Weekend Mom; I’m a mom all the time. I just see my girls on the weekends. It’s not how I want it, but it’s what’s best for the girls. They live with their dad during the week; he does not work and lives at his sisters. He has a room there for him and the girls; their school and after school activities are all in that town. The girls have a good life set up there. I live in a small one bedroom apt in the next city over. Once my lease is up I hope to move in to a bigger place to give my girls a room of their own. I work 40+ hours a week and I go to school. I’m trying to better myself for them. We tried doing 50/50, but on my weeks I had to get the girls up way to early to run them back to their dad’s house so I could get to work and they could get to school. I did not mind doing that but the girls did not like it. They need to be on a good schedule and that was not helping.
If I wanted to be the custodial parent I would have to take the girls out of school and move them to a new school in my city. That’s not fair to them. I’d also be paying an arm and a leg for daycare for before and after school care. I make just over the income limit from any help from the state for help with childcare, or food assistance. Basically I’d have to quit my job to be able to take care of them full time. It’s ridiculous.
All I want to do is be the best mom I can for my girls. I’m doing what works for us. Don’t judge me, I won’t judge you.
